Who Told You To Do That?

Who Are You Listening To?


Who are you listening to?  Why are you listening to that person?


We are creatures of habit and environment.  Our habits are picked up by the repeated actions, tendencies and behaviors that became normal to us.  In our environment we do what we see and we are expanded or limited by the expanse of our environment.  However, time and knowledge has shown us that it doesn’t have to be that way.  We don’t have to stay in the prison of our past or our experiences.  We can expand to new growth but it requires intentional behavior.  


Intentional behavior includes being mindful of who we are seeking wisdom from.  A common mistake that we make in seeking wisdom is that we primarily listen to and get advice from people who we are comfortable with.  However, we never stop and ask ourselves why are we comfortable with them in the first place.  The truth is that we are comfortable with certain people because we have been in the same environment with them for a long time or we share a similar opinion about certain subjects.  


For example, those friends that you grew up with in the neighborhood you still look to them for advice and approval because you always did.


That girlfriend that you meet for happy hour, she thinks you have the best relationship with the best guy, even though he physically and mentally abuses you.  She supports your messy relationships so she is your confidant of wisdom.


There is a better way.  The better way is to be intentional about your pursuit of wisdom.  


The Wisdom Equation


Wisdom is experience + knowledge + good judgement.


A person with experience, who has gone through, survived and thrived in the area you seek needs knowledge and good judgement.  Sometimes people survive and win by luck. Luck is not what you’re looking for. You’re looking for wisdom, so you have to make sure that the person you are listening to actually gained knowledge from the situation they experienced.  


How will you know if they gained knowledge? Knowledge is facts, information and skills gained through experience or education. In other words, what are the facts they learned? What information or skills did they gain from that situation?


Lastly, the wisdom equation requires good judgement. A person can have all the experience and knowledge in the world but do they display good judgement on a regular basis?


Life is too short to waste your time. Seek wisdom so that you don’t make unnecessary mistakes.  Seek wisdom from the right people.






Until next time, 


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