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Dose of Positivity
Pain Does Not Have To Mean Suffering We all experience pain. Unfortunately we also have all experienced some type of suffering. Suffering comes in many forms. Physical suffering, mental suffering, emotional suffering, financial suffering and the list goes on. Suffering is natural but it is not necessary. I believe that most of us suffer because we are in the dark about how to stop that cycle. The cycle I’m referring to is the cycle from pain to suffering. When we realize that we can stop the cycle and then get the tools necessary to stop the check we will have more peace. What is suffering? The original root sense of “to suffer” was “to bear or carry.” The Latin “sufferre,” meaning “to bear, undergo, carry,” with that in mind, when we suffer it’s because we are carrying pain. For example: Constantly talking about your terrible break up = carrying the pain of the breakup = suffering. Constantly returning to a place of a tragedy = carrying the events of that tragedy with you = suffering. There are many other examples but the bottom line is that when we choose to carry the events that caused us discomfort or pain we are choosing a state of suffering. How Do I Minimize The Suffering In My Life? ☯️ Accept that there is nothing wrong with feeling hurt, sad, depression or any emotion at all. We are emotional beings so we have a full range of emotions at our disposal and we surely use them. ☯️ Set up guardrails. Guardrails let you know when you have gone a little to far. Guardrails in your life will do the same. They will let you know when people or situations have gone too far. When you get the guardrails notifications, back off or change course. ☯️ Limit the time of your suffering. Yes, actually put a time limit to the amount of suffering that you will allow in your life. It sounds easy and in fact it is. You have more control over your thoughts and the direction of your thoughts than you can imagine. Begin to build your mind control muscles by limiting the time you morn, talking about, cry about or suffer over a situation. Suffering can’t be eliminated but it can be controlled. Watch my YouTube video for a more in-depth conversation on developing your discipline muscle. Until next time, 🙏🏾 Please subscribe to my YouTube page below where I’m building a library of empower workshops.
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Dose of Positivity
Discipline In my experience as a Judge it seems that the word “discipline” has become a dirty word. When I use it to describe expectations that I have or use it to describe a path to greatness some people get offended. One reason that people get offended is because, as independent people, we all want to have and express control over our lives. We don’t want to answer to anyone, we don’t want to follow anyone (in real life) and we all want to be bosses. The funny thing about all those aspirations of independence is that they too require discipline. Discipline is the key to success in any area of interest. If you want to be good at something you have to practice discipline. If you want to be great at something you have to live a life of discipline. Let’s explore three “disciplines of discipline”. ☯️ ControlControl is required to have discipline. You can’t even begin to become more disciplined as a person until you foster the ability of control. Think of it as a first step. For instance, you have to learn to control your temper before you can be so disciplined to never get mad at all. The reason that many people lack in their development of discipline is because they try to jump directly to “Never doing (fill in the blank)” not realizing that they first have to control themselves when (fill in the blank) occurs. ☯️ PurificationPurification is another dirty or resented word. When I speak of purification I am not talking about walking around with no flaws in a state of perfection. I am referring to your ability to rid your mind of negative and dark thoughts. The benefit of getting rid of the negative and dark thoughts is that you are removing negativity and darkness as even a possible response to things that happen in your life. ☯️ Relinquishment To relinquish is to let go. To release. In order to have discipline in your life you have to release and let go of the things that contradict your goals. If you want to be in better health, but you have an addiction to sugar, relinquish the sugar. If you want to have a great relationship, but you are addicted to the person who brings you drama, relinquish the drama. If you can not relinquish, what you are saying is that what you think you want is not as important to you as staying where you are. If you don’t care about where you are or if you don’t care about going to your next level of greatness then discipline is not for you. But I can’t end like that. I know that you desire more from life. I know that you desire to win in all areas. I know that you understand discipline is a key to your success so let’s grow in discipline together. Watch my YouTube video for a more in-depth conversation on developing your discipline muscle. Until next time, 🙏🏾 Please subscribe to my YouTube page below where I’m building a library of empower workshops.🙏🏾 |
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