Dose of Positivity
Pain Does Not Have To Mean Suffering
We all experience pain. Unfortunately we also have all experienced some type of suffering. Suffering comes in many forms. Physical suffering, mental suffering, emotional suffering, financial suffering and the list goes on. Suffering is natural but it is not necessary.
I believe that most of us suffer because we are in the dark about how to stop that cycle. The cycle I’m referring to is the cycle from pain to suffering. When we realize that we can stop the cycle and then get the tools necessary to stop the check we will have more peace.
What is suffering?
The original root sense of “to suffer” was “to bear or carry.” The Latin “sufferre,” meaning “to bear, undergo, carry,” with that in mind, when we suffer it’s because we are carrying pain. For example:
Constantly talking about your terrible break up = carrying the pain of the breakup = suffering.
Constantly returning to a place of a tragedy = carrying the events of that tragedy with you = suffering.
There are many other examples but the bottom line is that when we choose to carry the events that caused us discomfort or pain we are choosing a state of suffering.
How Do I Minimize The Suffering In My Life?
☯️ Accept that there is nothing wrong with feeling hurt, sad, depression or any emotion at all. We are emotional beings so we have a full range of emotions at our disposal and we surely use them.
☯️ Set up guardrails. Guardrails let you know when you have gone a little to far. Guardrails in your life will do the same. They will let you know when people or situations have gone too far. When you get the guardrails notifications, back off or change course.
☯️ Limit the time of your suffering. Yes, actually put a time limit to the amount of suffering that you will allow in your life. It sounds easy and in fact it is. You have more control over your thoughts and the direction of your thoughts than you can imagine. Begin to build your mind control muscles by limiting the time you morn, talking about, cry about or suffer over a situation.
Suffering can’t be eliminated but it can be controlled.
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