Managing Life's What If's

What If? 

The world is full of uncertainty, which means that life is full of uncertainty.  I watched a Saturday Night Live comedy sketch that really put this uncertainty into perspective.  The sketch had three friends in December of2019 going to a fortune teller to get predictions of how their 2020 would turn out.  The things that the fortune teller predicted were situations that, based on our experience and expectations, you wouldn’t expect to happen.  That is how 2020 turned out. There were many things that we would have never imagined would happen that actually did happened.  


Think about it:
▪️Stocking up on toilet paper out of fear that it would be in limited supply.
▪️Not being able to eat inside of restaurants.
▪️Not being able to fly on a plane or go to any place without wearing a mask.
▪️Zoom holidays.


This year has put us all in the position of wondering and even asking, “what if?”.  We now realize how unpredictable life is. We realize that we don‘t individually control what happens in this world.  By this I mean that some tins require a joint effort, for example:


▪️To support a healthy atmosphere we ALL have to care about climate change.
▪️To support low disease, pandemics and outbreaks we ALL have to be safe in the way that we live our lives.
▪️In order to stop domestic violence we ALL have to care about not mentally or physically abusing anyone.


The “what if”, in and of it self, is not all bad.  The “what if” gives us an opportunity to plan and prepare for a better 2021.


How does the “what if” work?  There are two keys: 1. Plan for your best life and 2. Control the things that you can control.


Plan for your best life.
I am an obsessive planner. I even created a planner that will help you map out your life for 2021.  I have discovered that when you plan you are taking control of your life.  Planning is a way of taking action.  I suggest that you take time to map out all the positive, “What ifs” for 2021.  Then plan and map out the path to make those positive “what ifs” come to life. 


Control the things that you can control.
We spend too much time thinking about and worrying about what other people think or are saying about us.  We also spend a lot of time worrying about what certain circumstances are going to do to us.  I do believe in giving some consideration to the possible scenarios that you may find yourself in, however more time should be spent focusing on the things that you can control.  


You control your time - Your life is your life.  Your time is under your control but this control only lasts as long as the choices that you make.


You control who you spend your time with - Why do you continue to spend time with people who are not good for you? 


You control your mind - Your thoughts are yours but you allow other people to take space in your thoughts.  If the thoughts in your head are not good for you eliminate them because it’s under your control.


You control your body - This is a statement that is “mostly” true.  There are a few situations where you don’t control your body for example if you are in a physical jail, you don’t control what you do with your body.  Similarly, if you are in a physically abusive relationship - Domestic Violence, you may not control your physical body BUT both of those situations can be temporary if you take the first step and “plan” your way out.


The funny thing about control is that its a moving target, so you should start controlling what you can now because soon it ALL will be out of our control.


Life is full of “What ifs” and it will always be, however use your power to plan for the best and then control what you can.


Until next time, 


🏾 Please watch the video on this subject from my workshop by following my YouTube page below.🏾





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