ForgivenessForgiveness is a humbling process and it takes a lot of hard work. To let go of pain and anger takes serious effort. It’s easy to talk about forgiveness and even easier to tell someone else to forgive but to apply forgiveness takes more than just words.
Steps to forgiveness
⚖️ Acknowledge That You Have Been Forgiven
Those who believe and follow God know that forgiveness exists. Those who believe in and respect the “universe” knows that forgiveness exists. Even those who don’t believe in a higher Power know that forgiveness exists. We all believe that forgiveness exists because at some point in our lives we have been forgiven. Maybe you were forgiven by your mother, at least once (think of the time you broke something in your house as a kid). Maybe you’ve been forgiven by your boss for a mistake you made at work. Maybe a Judge, like me, gave you a lower fine or even dismissed your case, showing compassion. There are countless examples of forgiveness yet we have a hard time applying it in our lives. The first step to applying forgiveness is to acknowledge that you have been forgiven, so you know that forgiveness is possible.
⚖️ Get out of Jail
Unforgiveness is a jail that we voluntarily walk into. Why do we walk into this jail? I submit to you that we walk into the jail of unforgiveness because it is the path of least resistance. It’s easier to close the door and lock it behind you when something hasn’t gone the way that you wanted it to go. To do this is to voluntarily put yourself in a jail or prison of unforgiveness. That jail has four walls and a ceiling that will keep you closed off and locked away from all the sunshine available to you.
⚖️ Take Control
When we live in a state of unforgiveness we are allowing something outside of our control to have dominance over our lives. When we constantly blame others and cling to the hurt of the past we are unable to live in the present and fully enjoy our lives. Don’t give up control in one ofthe few areas where you have total control. No one can take away your ability to forgive.
⚖️ Take Responsibility
Responsibility is a step further than control. Control is knowing that you have the power. Responsibility is knowing that using your power to forgive is all up to you.
When you take responsibility you are designing the life that you want. I know you don’t want to live in hurt and pain. Design life that minimizes hurt and pain. I know you don’t want to live repeating wrongs and bad experiences. Instead design your life in a way that you wipe the continuance of those wrongs and bad decisions out of your life.
How do you wipe the bad memories out of your life? You stop giving them life by practicing forgiveness!
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