Let me keep it real, our community is something else. I can observe, study and learn about other communities but I have lived the black experience which makes me able to intelligently speak on the subject. In fact, I have been living in or connected to East Cleveland, Ohio my entire life and East Cleveland is as urban as it gets. In my experience as a man, lawyer and Judge I know that all people can be messy but I have also learned that to battle other people’s messiness, we have to block the haters.
IDENTIFYING THE HATERS
Haters come in all shapes and sizes. They are your friends, your co-workers, your mate and even your family. It’s not that haters are hard to find, its more that it’s hard for us to allow ourselves to understand and believe who the haters are. Why? Because we are often connected to the haters and maybe even love them. In order to block the haters, you have to be bold and strong enough to call out the haters who are in your life or in your environment.
CALLING THEM OUT
Today its dangerous to call out haters because they will defend there position to the end. Instead of being loud or embarrassing, simply let your haters know that you see them. Let them know the expectations that you have for your life and, maybe after an opportunity for them to change, tell them, better yet, show them that you are done with them.
REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THE MESS
Calling out haters is a way to your freedom and its a way to put them on notice. The next step is for you to be proactive in removing yourself from the mess. It sounds easy to do but it is a challenge. The challenge is for you to understand that when people are at their highest state of negativity, it is very hard to beat them at that game. Instead of removing your self from the mess, you probably try to fight the mess, hang in there or even change the person. The question that you have to ask yourself is, “how much energy and effort do I want to put into playing around with this hater?”.
CHANGE THE ENVIRONMENT
Change your phone number.
Changing your number is simply changing the way you allow access to your time and energy. Maybe its changing your actual phone number, maybe its changing some other way that you used to communicate. The bottom line is that you have to cut off the access that haters have to your mind.
Block them on social media.
Block them! I had a hater that I allowed to post negative stuff on my page. I tried to ignore it. I tried to dispute it. I tried to convince them of my value. It was all a waste of time. Remember, negative energy is hard to beat. Once I woke up, I blocked them!
Physically move to a new environment.
Sometimes you have to change the way you move and the places where you move. Your environment is yours to protect. If the people who have access to you are making your environment toxic, move. Don’t wait for them to move. Get up and get out for your own good.