“People Do Crazy Things When They Don’t Feel Safe”

There are many ways to define safety.  We want to feel safe while walking to our cars.  We want to feel safe when entering our homes.  We want to feel safe at public gathers.  However, a deeper level to safety is your “emotional safety.”  


Emotional safety is a security that lives deep down in your soul letting you know that you are ok, that things will be ok and that your life will be ok, or in other words, that you are safe.


The issue of Safety is a quiet motivator.  Either you feel emotionally safe and you are guided by that feeling or you don’t feel emotionally safe and that feeling will guide your life. By guiding your, life I’m referring to your thoughts, emotions and actions.


When people have a feeling of safety they operate with the freedom of a predictable future  and a feeling that life will have a positive outcome.  These are the positive thoughts of a person living in a safe environment with safe relationships. Unsafe people have negative thoughts that lead to emotions and actions to gain, secure or fight for safety.
People who are safe have better educational experiences, better work experiences and most importantly better relationship experiences.


WORK: When a person feels unsafe they are not secure at work which will negatively affect their work productivity. 
EDUCATION: When a person doesn’t feel safe its hard to appreciate and focus on education or hard to pursue education because the results and benefits are unpredictable. 
RELATIONSHIPS: When a person doesn’t feel safe in a relationship every small disagreement becomes a world war.  Every mistake is a personal attack and ending the relationship is always a top option.


To live our best lives we have to create the safe life that our well-being needs. Here are a few ways to create your safe life:

1. Reaffirm the fact that you have made it this far. Literally appreciate the fact that you are living, you have made it through problems and you have overcome challenges. In other words, you know how to be safe.
2. Make your circle of “people” smaller. A smaller circle can give you more control over the unknown. A smaller circle can give you a better ability to recognize the source of negative energy.
3. Consciously decide to put your energy and attention in a positive space.  Make a list of the things that get your attention everyday. Then rate those items as either good or bad. Eliminate the bad.
4. Practice active self love. Meditate, workout, try yoga.  Motion can change your emotions.

Safety is important to success. Emotional safety is important to your wellbeing.
When your emotions are not safe, your world is not safe.